This year I asked for prayer requests from the brothers and sisters on my mailing list. I could not help but notice that a disproportionate number of them asked me to pray for their unsaved husbands. So I decided to write this post titled Prayer for unsaved husband. In it, I hope to share the prayer points I have been praying for these husbands so that if you need to pray for your husband, you can do the same.
Why are you praying for your unsaved husband?
I am sure you know that your prayers can make a big difference in your husband’s life. And you may also know that it would make a big difference in your life and the lives of your children as well.
This is exactly where you can make a mistake. Are you praying for your husband so that you can have an easier life or are you praying for your husband because you know that God is interested in him?
If you are praying a selfish prayer, it may take longer because God is more interested in transforming your heart so that you can be at peace and live in joy regardless of how your husband behaves.
I know that this may be hard to swallow, but it is the truth. Whenever we go to God in prayers for a selfish or self-centered request, we don’t get what we ask for. (James 4:3).
So I suggest that you start your intercession for your husband with a search in your heart to discover the true motive for your prayers. You can start with this prayer.
Dear Heavenly Father, I know you love my husband [name], please search my heart and help me to pray for him because you love him, because I love him and not just because it would be good for me.
If you find that you have been praying for him mostly because you want to have an easier life, then repent. Ask God to help you and begin to pray for him because you know that God wants him to surrender. You can use a prayer like this.
Dear Heavenly Father, I am sorry that I have been thinking of myself each time I have been praying for [name of your husband]. It’s not about me. It is about your will for [your husbands name]. From now on, I receive the grace to pray for [your husbands name] because you love him and I love him and you have a plan for his life.
Prayer of Faith for your unsaved husband
Are your sure that your husband would be saved and confess our Lord Jesus Christ as his Lord and saviour?
You need to be sure of this so that you can receive your husband into the Kingdom of God.
I have discovered that when I pray based on an assurance from God, I always get what I pray for. And this is what our Lord Jesus teaches in Mark 11:22-24.
It is important that you are completely sure that our Heavenly Father has promised you what you are asking for. This will enable you to pray with great boldness and extraordinary confidence.
This confidence and assurance is usually based on a scripture that the Holy Spirit impresses on your heart as you come before the Lord in prayers or as you consider the situation. An example of such scripture is 1 Tim 2:4. It gives us confidence that God our father wants everyone to be saved.
There are more scriptures that the Lord may place on your heart. Use this scripture and pray with great confidence and boldness for the salvation of your husband. The question is no longer if he will be saved. What you are waiting to see is how and when.
This is the prayer of faith. It is prayer that leads to thanksgiving. You pray until you are sure and you spend time giving thanks for the salvation of your husband.
I got a very good understanding of the prayer of faith from a book on prevailing prayers by Charles Finney. You can read an online version of a chapter in the book here.
Prayer Points for your unsaved husband
Now that we have covered the state of mind that you must be in to pray, you are now ready to pray for your husband.
I suggest that you let the Holy Spirit lead you to pray for him. The truth is you really do not know exactly how to pray for him. But the Holy Spirit in you is always willing to help you pray (Rom 8:26).
Here are a few prayer points you can start with. Please do not be limited to these prayer points. Let the Holy Spirit guide you to pray similar prayers that are specific to your husband.
1 Tim 2: 1-6
Ephesians 2:1-5
Luke 10:2
Warfare for your unsaved husband
2Cor 4:4 (NLT)
More Prayer Points like this
I have more prayer points like this in my article on how to pray for lost souls. I suggest that you take more prayer points from there as your intercede for your husband.
Pray for Yourself
This is a very important part of this process. Your life is the most vivid example that your husband has of what the kingdom of God looks like. In 1Pet 3:1 we see that a husband can be won to the Kingdom of God by the behavior of their wives.
So please ask the Lord to help you to reflect the Kingdom of God and the life of Jesus so clearly that your husband would be won to Jesus. You can pray like this.
Forgive your Husband
The first action that the Lord would help you to do is to forgive your husband. If you do not forgive, it is hard to have faith in God. (Mark 11:25)
Final Words
I am praying along with you and I am confident that if you follow the guide here, you will see your husband come into the Kingdom of God. I am confident that God who lead you to this article has great plans for your husband. Please do not forget to send me a note when your husband comes home to the Kingdom of our Heavenly Father.